Wednesday, May 29, 2019

What is Grace?


The power of one word could change history; if not world history, at least your own. 

To me, this speaks volumes about how people could better their lives by one five-character word, GRACE. This single word could stop a war instead of starting one, could soften the heart of a parent of a gay child, could stop a family feud before members are no longer around to make amends. 

What have you done today to share grace with others?

Many years ago, I found the following on a bottle of shampoo and shower gel distributed by philosophy®. 

Grace

Life is a classroom, we are both student and teacher. Each day is a test. And each day we receive a passing or failing grade in one particular subject: grace. 

Grace is compassion, gratitude, surrender, faith, forgiveness, good manners, reverence, and the list goes on. It's something money can't buy, and credentials rarely produce.

Being the smartest, the prettiest, the most talented, the richest, or even the poorest, can't help. Being a humble person can and being a helpful person can guide you through your days with grace and gratitude. 


Until the next time...




Saturday, May 25, 2019

Alison and Jonathan - A Love Story


This is a Fiction Piece - the idea for this story was from a dream I had where I lost Mary and the dogs in a car accident.


Alison and Jonathan had known each other for 14 years, and for 10 of them, were happily married. Their lives were perfect, and they knew it. Sometimes they would look at each other and say, “What would happen if our world fell apart?” but it never did. That is until July 10, 2015 when everything went horribly wrong.

It was a normal day for them. They got up at 6 a.m. and went jogging. They came back, got ready for work, were out of the house by 7:30 a.m. and at their respective desks by 8 a.m.

Jonathan would get home by 4:30 p.m. to take their dogs over to the local dog park. He did this daily and was always back by 5:30 to help Alison with preparing the dog's meals as well as their own. Alison started getting worried by 5:40 when Jonathan hadn’t returned home with the dogs. By 6:00 she was frantic. The phone rang at 6:10 and it wasn’t Jonathan. It was the police telling Alison that Jonathan had been in a serious car accident. He was being taken by helicopter to Baystate Hospital in Springfield.

Alison asked about the dogs and the officer said they were badly hurt and needed to be treated. Alison asked if he could stay with the dogs until she got to the accident scene which was only five minutes away. When she arrived, the officer helped get both dogs into the car. Alison had already called the Vet Clinic to tell them that she was bringing them in.

The staff were waiting outside. Each dog was assigned a vet to assess the injuries. Once they were examined, it was decided that due to the nature of their injuries, both dogs were going to have to be put down. Alison was with each one of her beloved pups when this happened.

One of the techs gave Alison a ride to Baystate Hospital to be with Jonathan. Once Alison arrived at the E.D., she was told that he was in surgery and they didn’t know how long he would be there. About an hour later, a doctor came out and informed Alison that Jonathan’s injuries were so serious that he was brain dead. Alison reacted hysterically to the news and had to be given a sedative. She was asked by a nurse if there were any family members who would like to see Jonathan.

Back when the two of them started dating, Jonathan’s family refused to have further contact with the couple since Alison was black. That decision devastated Jonathan for years. 

Alison contacted Jonathan’s family to let them know of his condition and to give them the opportunity to see him before he died. Elizabeth, his mother, was the only family member to come to the hospital. Alison also contacted Jonathan’s friends and colleagues who came in droves to say their good-byes.


At the funeral, over 200 people attended. Jonathan’s best friend and groomsman at their wedding gave the eulogy. David spoke about Jonathan’s love for Alison. He also related cute stories about their dogs. One was about Daisy who always snapped at his shoestrings. When David changed to loafers, Daisy continued to snap at his shoes. For Daisy, nothing had changed.


After the week of obligatory casseroles, Alison found the flood of concerned friends had slowed down to a trickle. She was at a loss as to what to do with her life without Jonathan and the dogs. She went back to work, but the thrill of the job had faded. Colleagues tried to be understanding, but other things in their personal and work lives took precedence. Alison became quite lonely.


At around this point Alison, heard from their vet. They had a puppy who had been hit by a car and had been abandoned. She had undergone surgery and was in the healing process. The vet suggested that Alison stop by and visit. She did, and right away, felt a kindred spirit with the puppy. She decided to name her "Hope" and brought her home.


Alison spent countless hours trying to understand why Jonathan died. Alison heard from the District Attorney’s Office about the accident. The individual who had hit Jonathan had started drinking at a local bar around noon and left a little after 5:00. He fled the scene of the accident but was later identified because of a witness's report of what the car looked like. That car belonged to a Congressman from their local district. This caused a flurry of news reports that led reporters to Alison. 

She briefly spoke to them explaining how much the loss of Jonathan and the dogs had changed her life forever. She also mentioned that she had hired an attorney to sue the Congressman for wrongful death. Within 48 hours after her comments to the reporters, his attorney contacted Alison's with a settlement offer.


The offer was for a half of a million dollars with the agreement that Alison would never discuss what the settlement details were. Her counteroffer was $750,000 and that attorney fees would be paid by the Congressmen as well. Alison planned to start a scholarship fund for students in need at Sacred Heart University where Jonathan had gotten his degree.

One thing Alison did do was to complete the painting project of the laundry room that Jonathan had started.  He had painted two of the walls neon yellow and stopped. Several years went by and Jonathan never picked up a paint brush to finish the project. The main wall had about 20 pictures hanging on it and Jonathan did not want to displace them in the process. 


Alison took a photo so she could put the pictures back in their appropriate places. Once the job was done, Alison finished up the project by signing Jonathan’s name in a corner above the baseboard. She also included the date he was killed. She re-hung the pictures and looked at the room that she and Jonathan had created. For the first time in months, she smiled.